femtique

femtique

• 10:43:06 pm on January 14, 2008 | # | 2
  

  

  Like Alicia Keys, Colbie Caillat was not expected to sexually objectify herself in order to sell this single. Through out the music video, Caillat described the feeling one gets when one is around their partner. Caillat expressed the lyrics in a lucid fashion.

  It starts in my toes
  And I crinkle my nose
  Where ever it goes
  I always know
  That you make me smile
  Please stay for a while now
  Just take your time
  Where ever you go

  The line that reads “please stay for a while now… just take your time now” indicates that the partner in the relationship is not expected to “give it up” or force any feelings. Quite the opposite, the phrase “take your time” conveys a message of equality and mutual respect.

  Part of what makes this song to egalitarian in nature is the use of phrases that express the vulnerability of a person in a relationship without emotional exploitation or “emotional abuse”.

  The phrase “I lose all control when you kiss my nose, the feeling shows” is indicative of emotional vulnerability. If one combines the lyrics “take your time” and “I lose all control”, then one can see how the main character feels comfortable in expressing feelings without forcing their partner to respond in the exact same way. Other ways the partner could express their emotions could be non-verbal.

  These lyrics reinforce the idea that there is nothing wrong with being emotionally vulnerable. Emotional vulnerability is not the problem in society. The issue is emotional abuse. An example of emotional abuse is described in the song “Apologize” by OneRepublic from a man’s perspective.

   

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  A~Lotus 3:23 am on January 17, 2008 | # | Reply

  I was really looking forward to reading your critique of this song. I first heard it on one of my stressful days, and this song made it light and “bubbly” for me. It has such a nice tune–a “feel good” feeling. I’ve read a comment somewhere on YouTube with someone stating that Caillat “looks like a modern-day hippie”. I think in some ways that may true given just her first video, but overall it should make everyone feel good and free to be “vulnerable” without anyone forcing you emotionally or otherwise.

  Keep it up, April! I can’t wait for the other critiques coming soon!

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  Janet | Web Design 6:23 am on July 6, 2009 | # | Reply

  Hi there, I have just come across your blog and have really enjoyed reading it, I love the was you analysis this song, I love the words of songs and its amazing how many people actually don’t read into the meaning of the lyrics, I cant wait to see what else you critique.